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Old 03-13-2011, 10:08 AM
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Originally Posted by sage View Post
What I've really struggled with this week is that I get the "come down" period. It's like she swoops in drains his energy and I get the remnants and have to work to put things back together between us. Not a happy camper.
It makes perfect sense to me that you feel that way. He might think your reaction is crazy, but perhaps he could make an effort to give you some extra special attention right after coming back from being with her. After an adjustment period, if he needs it. Why should you do all the work to reconnect when he's the one that was focused elsewhere? I would think that is his "job" (so to speak). That's just my take on it.
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