Originally Posted by BlackUnicorn
My metamour is in a really bad place now. My prospective partner says it's something they'll have to fix together. The wife is considerably less into polyamory - this has come up before, prior to me.
How do I keep from butting my big head in and micro-managing their relationship? I do love her, and hate to hear she is hurting. I would not take things back if I could, because this is something they would have had to deal with at some time - if it hadn't been me, it would have been someone else. But how to make her see it's not that she is loved any less, but the exact opposite is occurring?
I hear you. I don't have time to offer much more at present....but, yes..I think I understand the position you may be in. I've been there too..
Can you step back for a second and get some perspective ? I'm not sure of the intricacies that may already be present..
Wish I could write a bit more...perhaps later..