I don't have an issue with overnights as long as they are kept to nights where it isn't infringing upon the kids or work obligations.
However, Maca does and always has. His rule is no overnights if he's available to sleep with me (ie if he works out of town I can sleep with bf all I want). Therefore, there hasn't been an overnight between GG and I in more than 6 months, closer to 12...
And it's only been 18 months since we became poly.
I think it's crappy that people don' work on themselves, but as Mr. said above, most people aren't honest with THEMSELVES so working on themselves is a hell of a lot to ask. First they have to learn that they aren't honest to themselves, then HOW to be, then start to be all before they can actually work on themselves...
"Love As Thou Wilt"