03-10-2011, 11:08 AM
Join Date: Nov 2010
Location: The Big Apple
NYC: Poly Cocktails announcement
Poly Cocktails is a monthly event in New York City, organized by OpenLoveNY
. It's a get-together usually held in a bar/lounge in downtown Manhattan. Received this announcement today and thought I'd pass it on:
Greetings Poly Cocktails and Open Love NY friends!
Our Poly Cocktail event has been growing and lots of new people are coming every month, which is wonderful! As we enter our fourth year and reach more and more people who are new to polyamory, we want to seize the opportunity to educate them on what polyamory is, and what it isn’t.
Since many first-timers come to Poly Cocktails, we want to make a greater effort to make them feel welcome and ensure the event stays fun and safe for everyone. To this end, we need everybody’s help to co-create a safe, respectful space at Poly Cocktails so that our community continues to attract people looking to explore beyond traditional relationship models.
To that end, the Organizing Committee plans to implement several initiatives at Poly Cocktails, starting with a clear set of House Rules. Many of these standards of respectful behavior have been implicitly expected and are not really new – but as new people come who don’t know community standards of behavior, we want to be radically honest by spelling out our expectations of behavior and clearly defining the values of this community.
*L*earn – Poly Cocktails is for learning about polyamory. It is *not* a play space. No nudity, kink or sex play is permitted at the event.
*O*pen communications – Poly Cocktails is a place to exercise open communications with intention, foster interactive dialogue, facilitate trust, develop your listening skills, and give and receive support.
*V*erbal Consent – We encourage everyone to obtain verbal consent and explicit negotiations (as modeled at Cuddle Parties) before initiating physical contact (e.g. hugging).
*E*xpectations – check them at the door! Interest in polyamory does *not*signal sexual availability or indicate sexual orientation.
*R*espectful behavior toward hosts and guests is required.
*S*afe Space – Poly Cocktails is safe space for all sexual orientations and gender/kink identities, as well as those who identify as monogamous. No photography, video or recording of any kind is allowed without prior verbal consent of all parties involved.
Guests at Poly Cocktails will be expected to follow these rules if they wish to continue attending the event. If there’s a problem or complaint, we will remind the individual(s) about the House Rules, issue a warning about behavior, or ask them to leave.
As stated at the beginning, we need your help because this is YOUR community, and we welcome your feedback and suggestions to improve our events. We also invite you to help us educate newcomers if they do not seem aware of these expectations. By working together, we can all help keep our poly community feeling respectful and safe.
Another change is that designated hosts and greeters will now be wearing nametags at each Poly Cocktails. We invite new folks to come introduce themselves, and we also ask that you find one of us if you are uncomfortable with anyone’s behavior or have concerns. We will also distribute printed copies of the House Rules at each event.
If you have any questions or comments, please write to us at firstname.lastname@example.org.
I thought this would be helpful for anyone who has attended or thought of attending, as well as those of you who might be thinking of organizing a gathering in your area.
Last edited by nycindie; 03-10-2011 at 11:21 AM.