All I want to do is give you a big hug and then introduce you to a real man. Seriously.
I AM bi and I AM poly and what you describe about it being a threesome or nothing makes me cringe with nausea. Seriously.
I've had a 3some with my husband and his FWB-and it was a blast.
I've had 3somes with other women as well.
BUT-for it to HAVE TO BE. Nope, nada, niet, no way......
"Love As Thou Wilt"