Axlfreak - trust your instincts, if this feels like it is going to explode beyond repair, request that they put on the brakes and the two of you get some professional help NOW. It may all work out, eventually, but your needs seem to be falling by the wayside, all the while he is being reckless with his new girlfriend. I would highly suggest getting an STD test done on yourself and insist that the both of them do so as well.
The baby thing: Have you told your husband that you DO want babies? He may have changed his mind, but is still under the impression that you don't really want any for yourself, for the same reason you think he didn't want any.
Last edited by SNeacail; 03-08-2011 at 07:11 PM.