Originally Posted by BlackUnicorn
Yup, that's why I want multiple real good talks with her before going further with this. People see and hear what they want to, and in NRE people tend to have a 'love conquers all' mentality.
Did I mention I really hate NRE?
Unicorn, coming from the perspective of the "wife" or "primary" I hope I can ease your anxiety a little bit. I know that in my own trainwreck situation if my husband's love had told me up front (or almost) that she didn't want things to progress any farther without me being onboard, that would have meant a LOT to me. Now my husband should have told me anyway, but we have our own situation that is different from yours.
NRE can really throw a wrench into just about any relationship, can't it? I am recognizing this big time.
Anyway, my point is really that you have done just what you should and I certainly hope for your sake that this ends with a big bed full of snuggly people.