This is a question, probably a stupid one, that relates to my own feelings. Although I have felt drawn to polyamory for most of my life, I find that I like to feel as though there is something that I share with individual partners that I do not share with anyone else, and vice versa, that there are a small set of things that a partner shares with me, but not with anyone else. The potential set of so-called 'special' things ranges from a special look or touch, to a regular walk together, to things like a habit of sharing food in a particular way. Is it consistent with polyamory to have that kind of feeling? Do you real polyamorists have it too?