It sounds like you are doing the things that you can do, besides just experiencing it... that could take time and confidence, there is no rush. Really, there is never a rush to do anything where relationships are concerned, besides getting on communicating, which you are doing. Speculation is all you can do right now... walk through scenarios, try ideas on, talk about them and then realize you likely will find that you will either never experience the situation discussed the same way, or won't react the same way. At least you can get an idea of how each other will react though and that is all you can do for now.
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