They say the road to hell is paved with good intentions...
Similarly, near as I can tell, the road to & through poly is rarely smooth...there's lots of speed bumps, potholes and detours...
Originally Posted by BlackUnicorn
So yeah. I was a big girl today. I was brave.
I sent an e-mail. It wasn't long, but it was terrifying. The brunt of it; If your wife isn't okay with this, neither am I.
I want to meet my metamour before taking things any further than they have already gone. I want to talk to her. I'll bring conversation cards if I must. But I don't want to hurt another human being by continuing an emotional affair with their partner and not knowing whether they a) know b) are okay with it.
Good on you for putting your foot down and spelling it out. You are right to insist.