Originally Posted by redpepper
the situation has brought us closer together and we are better as a unit because of what happened and who we are in our natures...
I have seen this in my own life and a good number of others here. We all make mistakes, sometime those mistakes are nearly catastrophic, sometimes they are small little things that lead up to the catastrophic.
I see it like a cinder block wall. It can stand firm for years, but over time seemingly small things can erode away at the entire structure. Water, erosion, tree roots, etc. will slowly eat away at the morter holding it together until one day a portion of it crumbles. Now there is this gapping hole in the wall and the enitre thing is unsafe and in danger of collapsing.
Unfortunately when we start the repairs, we may have to chip away even more brick and morter than originally thought until we find undamaged pieces. This is incredibly hard when we can't see the end result and all we see is a big mess with a hole that is getting bigger. Eventually, we can start laying the new concrete foundation, we can put in the new bricks and even add proper rebarb supports that weren't there in the first place and even more concrete. While we are at it, we beef up the rest of the wall that didn't come down. Now we have a wall that is much much stronger than the original was when it was new.