Thank you Cindie.
I am in therapy. and it's not my first shot at it.
he just started on his own for the first time ever.
I see him now for being that manipulative, angry man that hates himself. I can't fix that.
I realize that while i did NOT leave DH FOR J... and had DH dealt with the situation I would have stayed with both... J has given me a strength to be brave enough to hopefully make the bad behavior stop.
I can now let them both know about this forum but i would prefer to move my blog.... so i have to figure out how to get that done.