After a 9 year relationship and seeing all the relationships around me (parents, friends, etc), and after reading this book:
I arrived to the conclusion that polyamory / an open relationship is the only way to true happiness.
Most people do not discuss these topics but now that this interests me, it is so interesting to bring it up to people and see their reaction. I like to ask them "Are you happy with your relationship?" (a long monogamous one) the answer is always the same....
"Ammmmmmmmmm... well.......... life is not about being happy..."
WRONG - life IS about being happy!
Then I ask "how many times do you and your partner have sex?"
They all look at me with this funny look, then get closer (because it's a secret) and they say - "about once a month".
It is not that couples become "familiar" with each other and want "new stuff". Couples actually become disinterested in each other, PHYSICALLY, because it is a BIOLOGICAL mechanism which is inside of us, which is designed to make us look for different partners all the time.
Anyway... I'm glad I found this forum. What do you think is the best way to spread the "lies of monogamy"? Do you talk about this with your friends? Family?
How do you find partners that have the same POV? Do you just tell people that you meet that this is how you see things? Or you actually look for people who are already "into" it? Is there a club / mailing list / dating site for people like us? :-)