Originally Posted by nycindie
I would never want to be in a poly relationship with anyone who gives his wife veto power, with the potential to discard me according to his wife's whims or insecurities.
Oh ya! BLah! I get that its important to discuss and set good boundaries that make everyone feel safe and secure in their position, but being discarded because some other person says so is not going to fly with me either... I think I have come too far for that now anyway. Some are very hesitant and need some kind of assurance that if the going gets tough they get to say stop.. really they should be slowing down and going at the pace of that person rather than stopping though I think.