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Old 03-02-2011, 08:04 PM
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Don't worry about labels, Bricklie. They are just there as guidelines or as a way to find others of like minds, not to hamper you or hem you in. Trust your inner teacher (intuition). If it feels good and right, do it, or don't do it. You will only feel conflicted if you think you should or shouldn't be doing what you're doing. Don't should on yourself and you'll be okay. There are no titles you need to live up to. Just honor your own needs and desires, revel in the joyful pleasures, and try not to succumb to worry. You're doing fine!
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