To clear up the part you are unsure of. I have asked each of them numerous times what the problem was.... got lots of stupid or non answers. As of yet they have not told me directly this is the case. So I'm speculating that my daughter has started to figure out she has been mislead.
The Hijack; I did read some of the postings in the children poly thread and I understand their perspective. I was looking for the mono perspective that had a adolescent girl. I actually pm'ed "mono" a week or so ago on this very topic... Sorry.... Move it if it seems necessary....no problem.
I can outline all the other struggles just as easy this just happens to be the current one.