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Old 03-02-2011, 03:14 PM
GroundedSpirit GroundedSpirit is offline
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Originally Posted by amandaebo View Post
We have decided to go ahead with the moving in thing and just keep it with the 3 of us, I know it might be soon but I know we will all be very happy together, she and him get on really well and know they will fall in love, I love them both to bits and can't wait to start a family together
Hi Amanda,

Ok - you decided to take the plunge against all the wise advice of others here about moving in together.
That's ok. Every situation is unique so nobody can view through the crystal ball.


A word of advice for ALL.....

When you live together, silly little things that were easily overlooked when you were more independent can balloon into monsters. A hair left in the sink. A dirty dish of the coffee table. Music differences in style or volume. The list is endless.

Get talking and practicing NOW on how you are going to resolve things in a peaceful manner going forward. Especially a commitment to not hold things in until they fester ! That's the biggest and most common mistake.

This isn't unique to a triad living together (or more) - it's part of even 2 people living together ! It's definitely a practiced skill. If you grew up in large families you probably are better prepared for this but if not it can be a REAL learning experience

Be aware that a lot of relationships that work fantastic in the bedroom fail and break up in the kitchen.

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