I had an epiphany moment when I realized that polyamorous was what I was.
Then, I had a "getting used to sharing" couple of moments when Maca started seeing other women.
What I found was that the one who met me the same day she first met him (arranged on OKC) and was willing to be upfront and friendly with me from the get-go, left me with few insecurities at all.
In fact, them using our bed and being in our home, her being there for him (with my whole family) at the hospital (I was out of state) when my mom nearly died, etc didn't cause me any issues.
EVEN THOUGH she and I almost never talk, when we do it's ALWAYS friendly, open and caring.
The lady who came across as conniving and controlling... that one created a fury in me that was unmatched by any other but his ex-wife.
"Love As Thou Wilt"