Thank you all for your time and replies. You have given me a lot to think about.
I do feel he is selfish....even the mistress has said it too. But he is loving as well. Weird how he can be both
I am not happy doing this.....but I am willing to staying in it and trying to heal. But the relationship I have with the gf is very strained
Thank you so much for your support.....and I don't know what would justify his actions of cheating on me
And some times I feel he still is cheating, just now I know about it