she was very apologetic about it both times... she said she was sorry she lead me on and so on and so forth because at first I got really mad. then after I calmed down we discussed it and everything was fine....
then with the ex she told me and again was very apologetic because she thought i would be mad or hurt. when I told her I understood she was relieved and everything was fine until i started doing the whinny needy jealous boyfriend stuff. It was mostly just because I started getting subconscious about myself and me and her still have to discuss that while I try and solve it.