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Old 02-26-2011, 09:45 PM
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Originally Posted by poobah123 View Post
So my wife has started reading about polyamory. Her main problem with it is when does it end? meaning, If A is married to B and they both have others (C&D) then (C&D) have others (E&F) and so on. To tell you the truth, I don't know how to reply to this. I could use some suggestions.
You might want to read Opening Up by Tristan Taormino, if you haven't already. Good info about poly in general and many of the possible configurations. Don't assume that because you want a second partner that everyone in the mix will start taking on more and more partners exponentially. It will be whatever you make it, and the relationships can be closed. Poly people can be involved with mono people who do not have any other partners. But there are many much more experienced people than I here who can tell you about that, as I've only been exploring this a few months. Read this forum some more. Have your wife come here and ask questions, too!
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An excellent blog post on hierarchy in polyamory:
solopoly.net/2014/10/31/why-im-not-a-secondary-partner-the-short-version/
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