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Old 02-26-2011, 06:26 PM
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It is good that you are all talking about your feelings. It's great to get it all out. But be patient.

The hard part will be to remember that none of you necessarily has to act upon or change anything right away when difficult or stormy feelings come to the surface. You can sit with them a bit, let things settle down, before making any decisions.

Try to become aware of your thought process, in order to know which feelings are genuine responses that rise up naturally and which ones are familiar states that we know how to stir up with our thinking (and perhaps over-thinking) about stuff. If the thoughts start to race, and feelings bubble up that seem overwhelming, breathe and sink into your body. Do something physical, it helps.

All the best to you all.
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