A lot of this struggle has nothing to do with "group" opinions of what love is or the value of sex. It's about individuals defining those things for themselves and determining who fits their criteria to share both with.
The other big part of the struggle is finding the strength to be true to ourselves and saying this is what I need/want and being able to admit when some one doesn't meet those.
No group defines love or sex or has any authority to say this is how you should think...individuals do. There is no right or wrong, only acceptance of each others differences and recognizing that based on those differences not all people are meant to be together in some ways.
Playing the Game of Life with Monopoly rules.
Monogamy might just be in my genes
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