PLove, it is good to read how you are taking care of yourself while still considering such a new (and very likely shocking) possible stage in your relationship. I agree that everything going forward must be transparent and out in the open for any of it to work.
You may want to read the blogs section and look for TruckerPete's story
. Also search for posts by Vodkafan. I think both members' perspectives might inspire and inform you.