Originally Posted by Lunshbox
It is either we go through with this and she is happy and I am miserable or we don't and she will never be completely happy and I will constantly feel like I stopped her from finding true happiness.
Is there absolutely now way you can imagine you two surviving a polyamorous relationship? Think of a fantasy la-la-land where you both fall for this awesome bi guy whose super-attractive, mature and totally into you both? Is this a horrible future scenario where you would be equally miserable than in any other possible non-monogamous future you can imagine?