PLove thank you for your update it helps me understand my wife better. For me that fact that you love your man enought to just meet her and try to understand even if you say I can't do this in the end is PRICELESS. I too am very sorry for the affair and sneaking around behind my wifes back all that time but like its stated in the book Sex at Dawn most cheater still love there mates. Not a excuse to justify bad actions just some information. I pray that everyday this path gets better and better for you all.
Also I love all of you for helping us all that are in this situation. Just needed to say that.