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Originally Posted by SuperLaur
so here's my question/dilema. I've discussed with my friend the fact that I am not conventional etc, that I would not want exclusivity and would not expect it in return, but I'm still somewhat guided by social 'norms' and fear hurting him/ruining our friendship if it carries on and the idea of poly can't be accepted etc.
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Hi and welcome!
I think your problems isn't so much about being indoctrined and unable to let go of societal norms, but about being a considerate, vulnerable and real person who is concerned about leading on someone whom she cares about.
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