A most sincere congratulations to you, my dear. By the sound of things, you are discovering the realities of this delicious path and keeping your wits about you.
Know thyself? Check.
Know thy husband? Check.
Communicate some more? Check.
Proceed with caution and empathy? Double check.
For people who survive trainwrecks, everyday is a blessing.
Compassion is essential medicine and it seems as though you have it in spades. Cultivate more and more. For yourself. For your husband. For everyone around you. It's the only way.
I look forward to virtually meeting your husband. I have a feeling he and I have a lot in common.
And thanks for sharing your story.