thanks -- yes -- hate is a strong word & I don't understand it myself. We were suppose to talk, with mediation, and all she could do was yell...that was a few months ago -- but now they've started seeing each other again (they've known each other about 10 yrs). He wants us to try the mediation again...I recently lost my job so I've asked him to wait -- don't want her to try to kick me when I'm down!
But...I find it cool that the new guy & him get along! I'm taking that as a positive!
New to this wonderful world of polyamory - I must be crazy - never happier!!!