Originally Posted by Vera
How do I explain to him that neither one will be better than the other one and that I will still want to have sex with him?
I really, really enjoy listening to the Smokin' Joe Kubeck Band. That in no way diminishes my enjoyment of Counting Crows.
When speaking of various forms of non-monogamy...it ain't poly if you're just fucking around.
While polyamory, open relationships, and swinging are all distinctly different approaches to non-monogamy, they are not mutually exlusive. Folks can, and some do, engage in more than one of them at a time--and it's all good.