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Originally Posted by detritus
I kind of wonder what really makes someone mono though?
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In my opinion, and only specific to my own inner workings... ..monogamy can be viewed as both an ability and as an inablilty: The
ability to be completely fulfilled by a sole partner both emotionally and sexually
or an
inability to love more than one partner with
genuine emotional and sexual connection..... I say
genuine because a state of monogamy can be assumed by people who aren't actually monogamous...it can be "faked" as well.
I am only romantically connected with one person at a time. When I am connected in that way, my sexuallity is fulfilled completely by that partner . It doesn't mean that that partner has to engage in every act of sex I like either...individual acts are not what fulfill me......it's the energy fueled by love that does. I experience more fulfillment in kisses from Redpepper than I ever did with someone I just hooked up with and had sex with.
This also doesn't mean that I don't appreciate the sexuality of other people ( a hot ass is still a hot ass LOL)...but I don't want to share in their sexuality or be touched by their intimate energy.
Jealousy should not be a motivator to assume a state of monogamy...that is fear based.... monogamy is based on fulfillment and healthy love, just as poly is
