Originally Posted by Hades36
Maybe I'm just being selfish and want my cake and eat it to?
It's not selfish to want to have your cake and eat it, too. "Selfish" assumes that it's wrong to have cake and eat it, too. I don't think that's true. It's not wrong to want to continue both of these relationships.
I think it's natural for your wife to be feeling conflicting emotions; even if she is genuinely enthusiastic about pursuing a polyamorous life with you, there's a lot of social conditioning we all have to/had to overcome to get there, right? It sounds like y'all have patience, love, compassion, and communication -- after seven years of marriage and the difficulties you've been through, that's great! I think those qualities will serve the two of you well.