Originally Posted by RfromRMC
My two partners are both a tad stubborn from time to time, and have hot tempers. As you can imagine, there are arguments and fights. No huge thing...just typical in come pairings, except they take a bit of time to kiss & make up.
For those in similar situations, what's the good role of a third (or fourth, etc) partner?
To stay out of it and let the 2 of them go at it. If you get involved you invite potential resentment, mostly definitely stress on yourself etc. They are adults let them deal.
You leave yourself to other problems when you try to play mediator. If they really suck at arguing, during calm times, maybe talk to them about healthy ways to argue.
But in the moment... back off
.. if one of them tries to pull you in, leave.