Wow, that is a large family, VF. Many questions:
How long have you 2 been practicing poly?
How long has she has this bf?
Do you have a lover too, or are you not interested in that?
How do your kids explain their "2 daddies" to their friends and community?
Are you a closed V, or open to others?
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley
There's no lying in polyamory!
I'm a 58 year old woman with 2 partners:
miss pixi, my live-in gf, 36 (together since Jan '09)
Ginger, bf, 61, married, lives nearby (together since Jan '12)