Originally Posted by jerry424
not entirely by choice, .
I've got a few alarm bells going off. If your partner has time to go out why is there no time for you? I ask this because the situation where a couple explores poly and time allocation becomes very unbalanced when one partner finds someone is not uncommon. The simple truth of the matter is that women have an easier time finding someone as well. That is just a fact of statistics.
You do not want to become the babysitter while she is out having fun all the time. This will inevitably lead to resentment of poly and probably her as well. Sit down with her and work some you time out. Even if it is not time that you spend with someone else. This could be time for you to go have coffee or start a hobby. Create a balance so you are getting something out of this as well.