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Old 02-17-2011, 07:46 AM
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spontaneity in poly is a difficult one. Especially if you aren't used to it... having a partner to consider is like having a child sometimes perhaps. I have a child though, so I don't know the difference maybe. I always have to consider when I will be home for sitters or to make sure I spend time with my boy. I can't just go and do whatever a lot of the time, or leave a party that is 12 hours long to my spontaneous self. I have to have a plan a lot of the time. In monogamy, when one doesn't have a child and they want to go and do whatever whenever they want, there is nothing holding them back like another partner or child. I can imagine that might be new to your husband and something that he would have to get used to. Definitely a down fall to monogamy...
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