Originally Posted by AutumnalTone
Walk on. There are other ladies to get involved with who will actually respect you.
While I'm wholeheartedly in agreement with AutumnalTone's wisdom up to the part I'm quoting here, I cannot agree (based on the available words) that she should be gotten rid of without further consideration. Not yet.
First, the two of you should (a) set this other relationship aside for a while, and (b) talk, talk, talk, and talk. That is, get everything out in the open, talked about. That means that you should embrace your own feelings and needs and be clear about them with her. And she with you. If both of you really want to hang with this and can't get it worked out all on your own, consider a councelor for help. It will become obvious if this won't work out and you have to let it go. But it sounds like you both should give it a try.