I had to go rummaging 'round to find out what the deal is with you, Dub. Here's some of what I found. http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showp...04&postcount=4
I don't think you have a Personal Summary. (Was that what I called it?) But folks might find that helpful to catch up with you without having to search through all your posts.
Are you clear about what you'd like to have with this gal? Does she know what that is? Is she okay with that? Is she unwilling to talk about it? What's up?