thanks karma for the reply
I think I phrased my question based on not being sure if you were married. Thus it was unclear. You thought I was asking about the relationship between your wife and oso. My question is.... how much time effort did you or do you put into making sure your wife is ok. Now I don't know exactly how your journey started so these questions could fall to your wife.
Here's where I'm going with this. If this was your idea " the journey" do you see yourself having a larger share of the burden so to speak.. That burden being your wife's healthy transition to this new lifestyle. Forgive my difficulty in describing this. I hope this give you a glimpse as to the direction I was going. If not I'll keep working on it. D.