firstly i want to send you hugs and good wishes.
it seems to me that this does happen. my fiance and i recently went through a spell where he and i were not active in that area. like all things there were some things we had to work through. that being said i like the idea of creating a intimate time. intimacy can be defined as non sexual. to me i still would marry Patrick even if we didn't have sex. that said i love sex. Variety is the spice of life. maybe its time for you to grow in different ways. i hate being reminded by the powers that be that sometimes our paths are not what we want but exactly what we need. they say home is where the heart is. the heart can involve many things.
i struggle with the same issues some times. you are not alone.
best wishes and hopes