Originally Posted by JuneBug
She is an apparently happily married woman, so is not available for that. And despite whatever he's going through right now that is making him act this way, he has been a good guy.
If she's so "happily married" then you should DEFINITELY have things out in the open with her. And if all of you are into this poly-lifestyle, what makes her "not available for that"? Is she going against a boundary-agreement she has with HER husband, maybe?
I realize I may have my head up my ass, but I understand your situation less and less the more you try to explain it.
I am sorry that I can't say something more constructive to you.