Originally Posted by Magdlyn
I find it disturbing when married poly people have more sex with their OSOs than with their primary. Not to be critical, I think it's a good thing to discuss and be concerned about, is all. Sex with OSOs isnt supposed to replace sex with the primary, it's supposed to enhance it. Ideally.
Why. Thats a utopian way to look at it. Not everyone has the same sex drive, or has past problems, or is in the throws of NRE...
Not to mention knks/fetish etc can seriously make things skewed.
I can't say I have a sexless marriage. Its isn't uber active. We had some serious down time years ago, but life has been good this past year and is getting better by the day. For us, well it gets complicated... a little too personal even for me.