Originally Posted by CeleryPerhaps
Is this "This is how I am, and if you want to love me than this is how it will be" mentality normal?
I don't think that there is a "norm" to poly mentality. There's too broad a spectrum of people all under the poly-umbrella.
For myself and my "tribe", that would be a deal breaker attitude.
We live with the attitude that decisions are made as a group, for the group, with the group.
BUT-that's a personal choice. We all live together and we have children in the mix.
Every different variable changes the scene, so to speak.