I'm sorry I sound judgmental. Its me I am judging really as cheating is in hot debate in my life at the moment. Especially as my view of it contridicts my actions lately. I'm not perfect, we are all not perfect and the path to integrity is a difficult one. I understand everyone has their path and point of view. I gave mine simply as a point of view rather than to judge. Of course, in that, judgment comes out. Just how it is.
I do hope he talks to her before she comes. I think it would add insult to injury if she were to come all that way only to find she is faced with being lied to and the deciet going on. Poor woman.
Good luck on your path. May it be enlightening