It feels worse I'm guessing because the first guy was being "replaced" by you in your mind when you met her. So you feel like the victor since she chose you "most recently" . Now after having met you and been with you she has found someone else. In a way it's part of that feeling like "I wasn't enough for her", which obviously you aren't, because she's into open poly.
The only way open poly works in my mind is when everyone is open in it and having multiple partners. If one person is getting more than others for a long enough time then an unbalance occurs. How do you replace the time you lost with her because she now spends less time with you? You can't, unless you get another partner, or restrict her poly movements. Of course you could just get used to having less time with her and having no replacement, but that often leads to bitterness and unhappiness.
Last edited by preciselove; 02-10-2011 at 01:13 AM.