Originally Posted by Mark1npt
Unfortunately Mono, while you felt you were participating in everything with RP's family as an equal family member, they never viewed it as such, .
Honestly Mark, I would never elevate myself to "equal family member" the same as I will never elevate myself to the level of relationship or influence that Redpepper's husband has in her life. I am traditionally inclined to not allow myself that. This doesn't bother me at all and in fact is part of why we all work together so well IMO.
I hold her primary relationship and family above myself. I often find it difficult to understand the need of "secondaries" welcomed into established relationships to be considered equal or resenting the term "secondary".
Ultimately there are three people who's opinion has influence on my involvement with Redpepper's family....Redpepper, her husband and thier son. Outside of that, no one has sway over me. We will get through this. I don't need acceptance from any one but the three of them.