Actually we can and do live far far away from his family.
I currently live about 3000 miles away and Lobster lives about 6000. His job will keep us away as long as we want it to (and we do!) Sadly they still reach out and since we have 4 kids, it's hard to keep them more then an arms length away for their sakes.
Thanks for the advice about the counselors. We currently have an issue with countries and what's available but hopefully soon.