It seems to me that this is one of those intriguing dynamics where the options were laid out very clearly at the get-go. A compromise to the benefit of the Poly has been offered now;
it's pretty much a take it or leave it situation.
I have a Mono boyfriend. We also have a no new men agreement.
I never talk about it on here-because it just IS that way. He knows I'm poly-he accepts that i'm poly and he doesn't try to limit my options.
But that is the agreement and that's just the way it is.
"Love As Thou Wilt"