Originally Posted by SchrodingersCat
They're told that they don't have to go on the hike, but the van's going to meet everyone at the end of the trail, so if they want to get home, they better start walking.
That's not the case, though. To be accurate, it's a situation where everybody arrives at the beginning of the trail and then somebody says "I want to hike the 20-mile route, instead--do you want to come with me?"
Then the others get to decide if they want to take the other route or continue on without their companions on the 2-mile trail.
If poly is something you need in your life more than you need that person, then you and that person are not compatible to be in a relationship.
And if monogamy is something you need in your life more than you need that person then the two of you are not compatible.
Seriously, it is a matter of guaging compatibility. *Nobody* is forced to do poly nor forced to remain in a relationship as a mono with a poly partner.
It's a tough decision to make, certainly. Neither position (poly or mono) is any more noble than the other, though.