Originally Posted by dingedheart
I'm going to go!
Holy crap I love the honesty in this post! I must admit I am glad you are doing things that you have denied yourself in the past especially motorcycle trips
. I can relate to the draw of reverting to a secondary role as well. It does seem to offer a freedom or ease turmoil related to other partners entering the mix. The sad thing is I think this comes from a need to devalue the relationship in order to cope with the introduction of new partners...I get that even though it's not a very nice thing. I've offered something similar to Redpepper but she sees that as saying "no" to other relationships forming
As far as sudden changes to plans...perhaps a calendar would help. You will both need more structure but it could ease a few things around this.
Now stop typing and start packing for that trip!